Making the Move New York

Moving to New York: Dealing with Homesickness and Uncertainty

Moving to New York


Hardly a day goes by without me receiving a question about New York. When I was asked to write an article about my experience I decided now was the time to start a full series on the topic, here on ShePrevails. I will be covering everything from Visas and apartment hunting, to job searching and dealing with life in general here. There were plenty of things I didn’t know about before moving here so I want to try to cover everything I have learned and be honest about the things people tend to not tell you about….

If there are any specific topics you would like me to talk about let me know in the comments below this post! You feel free to email me on my contact page HERE x

Now, here is the article I wrote for Shone.ie which they titled :

MOVING TO NYC, NO BIGGIE, RIGHT?

“The Dream”

To live in New York has always been my dream. In 2012, I had spent six months here and a further three months in 2013 interning. New York is not for everyone, but anyone that knows me well knows how obsessed I am with this city. I knew I had to come back for a more permanent stay.

I can’t explain it but I think many people will understand when I say there is something special about this city. All the song’s referencing New York are true. It’s a place where dreams are made. But why specifically did I want to move here? Why did I decide to put myself in one of the toughest, most stressful situations you can be in. Homeless, jobless and friendless. Clearly, I’m crazy.

New york sky line

As I said above, New York is where dreams can come true, and boy do I dream. But that’s my problem. Another way of putting it is that I’m never happy. I never feel satisfied and always think about the next thing. For years New York always felt like the end goal and I would be happy once I was living there. But surprise, surprise the day I landed in JFK was not the day I felt complete. I have yet to feel that way and probably never will. That’s lesson number one.

The Art of Patience

The main thing this experience has taught me is to take everything day by day. Living here has thrown many curve balls, where things I thought would be hard were fine and other things I expected to be ok were far from that. I have learned I really can’t plan for anything and it has stopped me in my tracks. My mind is no longer allowed to run away with itsself. Everything, especially if you are dealing with visa issues will be up in the air. I have no idea where or what I will be doing this time next year and it absolutely terrifies me. Of course, I have imagined all the possible scenarios but at the end of the day, it is a waste of time. Everything is out of my hands, I only have one option and that is to sit still and enjoy the now. Thankfully there is a lot to enjoy.

I planned my move solo. It was brave, and knowing what I know now it was a bit crazy. I am lucky to have met many great friends who also moved the same time as me. The Irish in New York really have a way of finding each other! Finding a home and a job takes time and persistence. You need to be a strong individual to take the constant knock backs, but in the end, it will work itself out. Patience is something I have always lacked before, but New York somehow forced it into me.

The Uncertainty

Homesickness was not an issue for me. For the first 4/5 months, I was too busy trying to make it work and settle in to even think about home. So finally, when everything was going great, BAMB it hit me. It didn’t make any sense for me to feel this way. But at the same time, it made perfect sense. I am never happy. Once I started to feel as though I was “making it in New York”, home felt further away than ever. The idea of going home when everything is going so great would be ridiculous. So naturally, that was all I could think of. Luckily, a few days at home in June reassured me that yes, I still love my family and friends, but no I did not want to move back. But maybe, just maybe I’d be ok if I ever found myself having to return due to visa issues, which sadly is a real possibility.

If you are reading this, and have considered making the move this may have only made your decision harder. I am sorry, but you need to know about the emotional ups and downs, the test of patience and the ability to live in the now. These are the things no one tells you about.

So, should you make the move?

Yes!

Put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Fail and fail fast. Make peace with the unknown. Whatever happens, it will be an unforgettable experience that will teach you more about yourself than you have ever imagined. And at the end of the day, like my Dad always tells me. Home will always be waiting.

This past year has been one of the best in my life. Whatever happens over the next few months, New York will always have a special place in my heart.

Dealing with homesickness in New York

This article was originally written for Shona.ie. You can view the original HERE.

Read about why I decided to make the move HERE and the day I moved and a few things I learned from the experience HERE.

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15 Comments

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    Bella Bucchiotti
    August 7, 2017 at 1:57 pm

    Such a great post girly!! Thanks for sharing.

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    Tori
    August 7, 2017 at 3:45 pm

    Moving can definitely be difficult, even if it’s just a few hours away from home! I’ll never forget how helpless I felt watching my parents drive away after my freshman move-in day. I was completely miserable! But, I survived and am better because of it!

    Tori

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    Rachel
    August 7, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    I’m so glad you made the move for yourself! It’s definitely a scary thing but also so exciting! Can’t wait to see what’s next for you!

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    the sophia diaries
    August 7, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    These are totally great things to think about! I also understand the thrill of NYC, and while it’s my dream to live there for a bit, I know it won’t be financially possible for me for awhie 🙁 still, it’s something I hope I get to do 🙂 but also the homesickness is true for everyone I think 🙂 it’s part of growing up…

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    Samantha
    August 7, 2017 at 10:35 pm

    Cannot agree with you more when you say that you need to take everything day by day and you need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations. I think being comfortable with discomfort is so important for any young adult.

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    Kait Around The Kingdom
    August 8, 2017 at 7:06 am

    That’s amazing that you made the big move to New York! The farthest I went away was about 45 minutes from home for college! Haha

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    Kait
    August 8, 2017 at 8:40 am

    My husband & I recently spoke about the fact that we are always stuck anticipating the next thing when it comes to our lives. A new renovation, a car purchase, starting a family, etc. We just recently said we want to start trying to actively stay in the present & enjoy all the blessings we currently have. Very hard!!! Also, I live on Long Island & love New York! I Hope it becomes a great home for you xx

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    Emily
    August 8, 2017 at 10:23 am

    Part of me always wonders how different life would be if I ever made a move like that! I did the opposite after college, moved to a small mountain town where life is slow paced. New York is always so exciting to think of. I’m looking forward to reading more in this series, your writing is great!

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    Nicole
    August 8, 2017 at 11:24 am

    Such an inspirational post. I live in the general NYC area and am hoping to move there after college but even though I’d only be a few hours from home, moving to such a big city can be intimidating! XO, Nicole // http://www.nicolecoppins.com

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    Alix Maza
    August 8, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    I totally understand those feelings! Have so much fun in NYC.

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    Greta
    August 8, 2017 at 11:19 pm

    I know what you mean about New York, it’s magical and such a spectacular place!

    Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

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    Tori
    August 9, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    I absolutely love NYC, and it was so brave of you to take the leap. Keep up updated.

    Tori || Victori Media
    https://www.victorimedia.com

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    Maegan Clark
    August 12, 2017 at 1:54 am

    “Home will always be waiting” literally teared me up! That is so sweet!

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    Sami | The Classic Brunette
    August 14, 2017 at 1:01 pm

    I’ve always wanted to move to NYC too, so this post is too real! Because if I ever did make the move I would likely go alone and not have a job set up, haha! Great post!

    xo
    Sami
    The Classic Brunette

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    Silvia
    August 16, 2017 at 2:41 am

    My dream is also to move to NYC. You’ve seriously given me a different POV but I still want to go!

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